Saturday, May 29, 2010

Don't Wanna be a Hot Head

By Belinda

"Cool headednes, self possession and restraint." I pondered these qualities, mentioned in a devotional book I was reading, with longing.

I realized that if they were the benchmark to shoot for, I had recently failed yet again. Another person had clearly done something wrong and I corrected them, but I was ashamed that I had done it out of  barely contained hot-headedness and anger that simmered not far beneath the surface of my words.

I found myself doing another "What if?" exercise. Here's what I came up with:
  1. What if next time I waited before responding; allowing time to calm down before saying a word?
  2. What if I listened, seeking to understand the one who had offended me?
  3. What if I asked myself whether I am the best person to respond? Am I jumping too quickly before thinking things through sufficiently?
  4. What if, having heard the situation or concerns that prompted the words or action that offended me; I made my focus addressing the concerns rather than defending myself or others.
  5. What if I paused to pray before doing a thing?
If I did, I think that God might actually have a chance of growing the fruit of self control in me, and demonstrating another aspect of  his image in this jar of very earthy clay.
2 Timothy 1:7 (New International Version)
7For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.

Galatians 5:22-23 (New International Version)
22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

2 comments:

Deidra said...

Great questions for any situation where we find ourselves jumping the gun. The fact that you've asked them (and shared them here) is, I believe, a sign of sensitivity...which is a step toward growth.

Belinda said...

Deidra, Hope springs eternal. :) Thank you for your encouragement.